Chris Brown vs. Everybody

I just finished watching the Larry King interview with R&B singer Chris Brown and the more I see this kid speaking out on his own behalf the more you realize how much of a KID he really is.

Brown is only 20 years old and as this fact does not excuse his actions it does give me a different perspective on how to approach my opinion on what happened with him and pop-star Rhianna.

Don't get me wrong: a man should NEVER put is hands on a woman...a real man walks away from an argument if they feel that they are not in control enough to resolve things in a calm manner.

But I have to admit that watching this KID put out these constant videos and participate in numerous interviews to apologize over and over again and reiterate to everyone that his is not Ike Turner is really sad.

The interview in itself was not helpful on his behalf. He doesn't give any information on what led to the beating which he insists is an invasion of privacy for both himself and Rhianna. Rhianna has not spoken either about the incident to clear up as to why this happened. So the public will never know what really happened in that car unless the two persons involved plan to share that information. And for Chris Brown, I think his silence on the matter may be more about the fact that if it comes out that some petty argument led to him slamming his girlfriends head into a window then he will put his career in even further jeopardy; however it might further bring to light how young both Chris and Rhianna are.

Really the best thing for him to do right now is be silent. He will never escape this horrible chapter in his life but going on Larry King and saying you don't remember beating a woman doesn't help. Putting out an apology video on your website that came off as him reading a pre-written statment doesn't help. Calling people HATERS and promoting your new album on an additional video doesn't help. If his advisors are good, they should be informing him of how much all of the statments and appearances he have made him seem insincere and unapologetic. His appearance on Larry King seemed to emote a person who was lacked remorse and really just wished this whole mess was behind him. The best thing for him to do is to just get the help that he needs without involving the media aspect to keep his fans. I must admit that as much as I don't like what Brown has done, I still think the kid is a great talent and really like his music.

What Brown needs is solid counseling, a positive male influence and time to grow as an individual. Not to be ridiculed by some he felt were colleagues and friends within his profession (hint: Jay-Z, Kanye West, Oprah Winfrey). And if Brown needs counseling then so does Rhianna. Take into account her actions after the incident:

1. Brown turned himself; Rhianna didn't call the police

2. Rhianna did not want to press charges (and I am sure everyone reading this saw the pictures of the girl's face)

3. Three weeks after the incident, the two of them are photographed basically vacationing together at Sean Combs' Florida mansion after he supposedly beat her to death

The bottom line is I think it is crazy to judge and criticize the boy so bad and say his career should be over for one mistake. I mean, if we can forgive Michael Vick then why not Chris Brown.

Just saying...

YAY for 30!!!

In exactly 119 days I will be turning the big 3-0 and to be honest I was extremely excited.

At least I was until...I saw this shirt.

And I read these quotes:

"I'm turning thirty this year. And you know the saying, a woman over thirty is more likely to get hit by an A bomb than find a man."

-Fanny Fink

Congratulations, you've made it through a third of your life.

-Anonymous

And then I made the mistake of opening and reading these articles on the internet that gave a list of things that one should have accomplished before turning thirty years old.

Then...I started to panic.

I mean real bad panic attack with hyperventilating and crying and not being able to sleep. I mean I haven't accomplished half of the things on the list yet and am nowhere near getting married...hell I am not even dating at the moment.

Okay...so the panic attack slowly went away and then I got angry.

How come 30 gets such a bad wrap...

at 13 you become a teenager

at 16 you become sweet

at 18 you become eligible to serve your country and buy cigarettes legally

at 21 you can throw your fake I.D. in the trash

at 25 you're halfway through your 20s and all the college binge drinking didn't kill you

at 40 you're finally an adult and the new 20

What the hell is wrong with 30?

The answer is Nothing!!!!

The person who finally told me this....my mommy! (LOL!!!)

The truth of the matter is I hated my twenties. It is a decade of insecurity, trying to find who you are, lots of drinking and (and in my case) wasting time with all the wrong men and though I had some really fun moments I can't say that I would ever want to repeat that period of my life.

You see, 30 gets less recognition because it falls in the middle. You're not young anymore but you're definitely not old. You know at 30 that you are too young to be worrying about retirement but you're too old to be dressing up for Halloween and having themed birthday parties. You're too young to be concerned that you will never get married but you're too old to still be chasing 18 year olds.

That's it.

The rules just change a bit but the 30s decade is for taking all of the mistakes that you made in your 20s and learning from them. It's about becoming the person you were discovering in your first real decade of adulthood. It's about being better and realizing that your time is not up but still just beginning.

So for all of those out there who are turning or have turned the big 3-0. I say let's raise a glass and toast to being in the middle!

Thanks MOM!